I've heard my mentor say this before. "A lot of people are afraid to take responsibility of their own lives because that would mean you have a lot to work on yourself."
If it was me a few years back, I would have never understood what those words meant. Especially when I'm engrossed not only in my own dramas but also in the emotional dramas in my previous environment.
But now, I'm beginning to take responsibility of my own life.
Many of you may find that statement ridiculous. You may even think that, 'Of course I'm responsible of my life.' But those are merely just words unless you stop pointing fingers to the outside.
Many of you may find that statement ridiculous. You may even think that, 'Of course I'm responsible of my life.' But those are merely just words unless you stop pointing fingers to the outside.
We have the tendency of saying 'That's because of me!', when something good happens. But when something bad happens, we blame someone else for it. But how does that explain the statement that I am responsible for my life?
If you are responsible for your life, you would take concern of your thoughts, words and actions because whatever that happened, is happening or going to happen in your life is caused by your very thoughts, words and actions. (Please refer to The Seven Basic Laws Of Nature book - www.AscendancePro.com)
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Until I met my mentor, I wasn't really aware of lots of things. I mean I might have taken notice of some, but I guess, I just wasn't so keen on addressing it at that time. Simple things like procrastinating. I have to be honest here. I'm actually a very lazy person. I would prefer not to do any work, just sleep and watch Youtube the whole day.
But realizing it would mean, you are working towards your goals and you realize that nothing much is moving in your projects. I won't say I have figure the whole thing out on how I can stop procrastinating. No, I have not! But realizing it gets you to the next phase. Which is facing up to it. And taking actions.
Though I have not removed the procrastinating out of me totally, but things have changed a lot now actually. Like in a single day, I can't go without doing a little bit on a project I'm working on. It has now turned into a new habit that I have to at least do something about my goal before I go to bed at night.
I also found another way to overcome this. I purposely associate myself with this awesome group of people, ET Ideas (www.ET-Ideas.com) who are successful in their own distinct field because just by talking to them, I would be constantly reminded of my goals and the list of things I need to get done.
Though I have not removed the procrastinating out of me totally, but things have changed a lot now actually. Like in a single day, I can't go without doing a little bit on a project I'm working on. It has now turned into a new habit that I have to at least do something about my goal before I go to bed at night.
I also found another way to overcome this. I purposely associate myself with this awesome group of people, ET Ideas (www.ET-Ideas.com) who are successful in their own distinct field because just by talking to them, I would be constantly reminded of my goals and the list of things I need to get done.
But that's just one example or one realization. There are many, really. Tons that came about when I took the effort to get to know more about myself through working on my goal. There were lots of times that I even hated myself for being a certain way. Hated myself for having certain characteristics. Unfortunately, that's just who I am, right?
And as much as realizing this and facing up to it seems like an easy task, let me tell you this, IT ISN'T!
How do you manage your emotions? How do you stop yourself from going into the victim mode? How do you be truthful at your most embarrassed times?
How do you manage your emotions? How do you stop yourself from going into the victim mode? How do you be truthful at your most embarrassed times?
These kinda things bother me or shall I say, it confuses me so much that I wanna try to figure it out. Figure out myself, actually. What ticks me. What jams me. What gets me going.
But as much as these things seems much of a concern to me, a lot of people don't have the slightest bit concern about themselves. About who they really are.
They seem to prefer being in that same environment that keeps sucking them into a whirlwind of dramas. Dramas about family problems that seems so important to them that they decide to stick to it. Instead of walking off and exploring more about themselves, they entertain these dramas for the mere fact to feel important.
To say they don't have a helping hand, not really. It feels more like they like being there. But I wonder, though.
How long would you want to be in that whirlwind of dramas when there is just so much to learn about yourself? Especially when time is very precious.
To say they don't have a helping hand, not really. It feels more like they like being there. But I wonder, though.
How long would you want to be in that whirlwind of dramas when there is just so much to learn about yourself? Especially when time is very precious.
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