Attention is Hazardous

Sometimes... attention can be a very dangerous thing. Oh wait! It's not sometimes, but all the time.

The need for attention just makes you crave for more and more attention without getting you to think if that attention is something necessary for you or not.

You see, the senses likes attention. It can be a concern or friendly type of attention but it can also be a sexual type of attention. And attention distracts you from your goals and leads you into a downwards cycle which is negative growth. Because attention gets you to be PEIS.

P - Physical senses looks at someone giving you the attention.

E - Feel important and you create an illusion of happiness.

I - You start believing that you should get more attention so that you can be happy.

S - You believe you are faithed to meet these people.

But here's a question. What happens if these attention is pulled away from you? What would you do?

For most people, they would crave for more. You may not even realize it but you would start gravitating to those who can give you more attention. Even if that person may distract you from your goals, that wouldn't matter to you because at that point of time, your senses would say, just do anything you can to keep that attention coming to you. Even if it means, losing yourself along the way.

Like a lot of us like having casual texts with the opposite gender though it has nothing related to our goal. Some stranger or a friend asking something as lame as "Have you eaten?", has got nothing to do with your goals.

Unless it is someone who's helping you with your growth, asking if you have eaten maybe because you were not very well for the past few days.

But other than that, that kind of random chats is what distracts you from your goals by heightening the attention seeking quality in you. This kind of conversations in turn would end up sooo long that you would feel like you know this person for ages. But let me tell you this, that belief is plain bullshit because as long as you want attention, you and that person can mask yourselves however you want so that you can continuously get more attention.

How do I know this? I've done this, of course!

But here's the thing, if I don't correct this kinda thoughts, I would end up getting the wrong kind of attention that interferes with my goals.

So, why wait till I get into trouble?

I'd rather switch to SIEP and get my senses under my control. I'm not there yet and that's why starting early is a better option.

Intimacy in Relationship

So I was thinking how intimacy and being truthful helps tremendously in a relationship.

Well, it definitely helps a lot but what does it mean by being truthful intimately in a relationship?

I'm a Gen-Y and being in this category, we are pretty well-known in changing partners quite often. I'm not saying I do that but that's majority of us, depending on the programming. But I came to understand the reason why we do this. It's because we are designed to experience things including relationships. And that's why we keep moving on from one relationship to the other, wanting to explore the true relationship that can lead to our growth.

But most of us get tied up in relationships we are not favorable with because of commitments. That's where the problem lies. Because when you stop looking for someone that can help you grow and vice versa, you lose a lot in life.

For most people, a relationship exist because the senses sees a cute guy or a hot women, the emotions goes like, 'OMG, I'm falling in love!', the intellect analyzes all the positive traits that person has and exaggerates those traits and finally the spirit goes, 'He's the One'.

So, how should a relationship be? What's it like to be in a relationship?

If you say fights, not really. Drama, nope. 

But more to conversations, I would say. But truthful conversation. Even about your most intimate things.

I talk about a lot of things with my partner. About our daily happenings to even our most intimate thoughts. Things we dislike, things we like while at the same time discovering new things about each other.

I've learned that if something bothers a person, we should express and rectify it before it grows into something nasty. And that's what we do. Even if we can't meet each other, there's always WhatsApp that comes to our rescue. We express it, do SIEP multiple times until we have cleared that issue out of our mind. 

We update each other on our progress when moving towards our goals. This in return, generates ideas for projects we work on.

So... you might be thinking. Where is the physical part? Well, physical relationship is nice. But there's way more better things than that.

Like hugging each other, having late night conversations, whispering sweet things in each other's ears and not forgetting, lots and lots of laughter's!

Sometimes, the simplest things that the other person does can bring a smile to me.

But not if you are constantly focusing on finding fault with the other person.

This is just my sharing on how SIEP relationship can be an awesome relationship!

Spirit - You feel a connection and you are curios to know a person better

Intellect - Have conversations (proper conversation about anything and everything) for 3 to 6 months continuously

Emotions - After having proper conversations for more than 6 months, then you can decide whether you would want to be emotionally involved with that person or not. Sometimes, you might just want to remain friends without taking it to the next stage. 

Physical - Please get a medical check-up, people! You wouldn't wanna risk your health or affect your partner with any health complications like STDs or etc. Be concern about each other's health conditions before pursuing further into the relationship.

* A relationship is meant for your growth. Who you choose to be by your side, determines your growth in discovering yourself.