Wounded at Battlefield

Here was I feeling slightly better after more than a week just lying on bed because I couldn't take my headache and didn't have any appetite to eat. And because I was recovering, I was very excited I could finally get some work done especially the pending stuffs.

So, the bunch of us at ET Ideas (www.ET-Ideas.com) planned to work at Mid Valley as most of us felt lazy working from home. I thought it was a good idea and I started scheduling who I can meet and the things I can get done the next day. I was also excited to find a shorter route to travel to Mid Valley using public transport.

Wonderful meetings that I have with some of the ET Ideas team

Excited about all this, I texted my mentor to let him know about my plans for the next day. And he replied with a thumbs up emoji.

I was about to go to bed after planning things and I played my goals recording before I slept as usual. And normally, I would be fine with that. But that day, I had a complain from my mind. My mind was annoyed listening to my goals. I replied it saying, 'I'm gonna play my goals anyway and we're gonna sleep listening to it'.

So I woke up the next day feeling dizzy but I told myself we have planned the day and we can get this done. I got ready and took the public transport to Mid Valley. When I travel using public transport, I would usually listen to my goals. But that day, thinking it would be a shorter distance, I didn't have my headset on. And... that was a mistake.

That made me more approachable, and I met a girl who told me almost her whole life story in the 20 minutes I was waiting for the train to arrive. I was very blur with the whole thing that I didn't know how to respond to the situation. Instead, I just stood there listening to her. The most I could think of at that time was to invite her for the discussion I host - ET Youth (www.facebook.com/ETYouth) and slowly, I slipped away from her.

The train arrived and a few minutes later, I was at Mid Valley! I'm not used to working at Mid Valley, so the moment I step foot into the mall, I became super blur. I was even wondering, why did I choose this mall to work at. I couldn't think of a place to work (though Mid Valley is filled with tons of restaurants) and I sat at a waiting area for almost an hour, thinking what to do and where I should go next. Here's the problem, I couldn't think.

Finally, I decided to have some food. It would help to reduce my dizziness and hopefully when my physical body feels better, I can think better. That's when I remembered I was supposed to meet a friend of mine as we needed to discuss some stuffs. She sat in front of me sharing her experience on how her senses have manipulated her and I listened. I was supposed to share some of my experiences too so that she don't have to go through similar mistakes as me, but all I could do at that point of time was... listen.

That's when my mentor texted about how I was doing. And I texted him back about my dizziness and being blur and the things that happened throughout the day. And all I wanted to do was to go home. But I couldn't because I had another meeting to attend later in the evening. He replied asking me to 'Breathe' (a popular term among the ET Ideas Associates) and also mentioned that I should have informed him about this when it happened. I said okay.

Working together on our goals makes it so much fun!

Then my friend and I went looking for a place to work at Mid Valley and because I was dizzy and didn't feel like walking a lot, we settled for a super quiet place where we were the only customers. I turned on my laptop to do my work. It was less than half an hour when my headache got worse and I told my friend I was going to take a nap. An hour later, my friend woke me up. It was time for my next meeting but truthfully, I just wanted to run back home and sleep.

But the meeting was already planned and I just needed to get through it a little while more. Thanks to the considerate meeting partner, we had a quick discussion, delegated our tasks and ended the meeting. 

After the meeting, I met up with my mentor to understand why my plans were derailed and most of my tasks for the day was not completed. He laughed at me first before further explaining. He said I was just recovering and getting better. I should have taken things in a slower pace and build back the momentum slowly. But instead, I rushed into things and forced my mind to do things my mind and body is yet to handle. 

He also said that I chose to take a new route to a new place to do my work instead of the normal locations I'm used to. That jammed my mind and my subconscious had to scan and scan and scan to familiarize with the new environment. And that made me even more tired and dizzy, making it hard for me to focus on my work. I also had some distraction from the lady I met at the train station, just because my physical body was not well, making my thinking ability, wounded. I arranged a few meetings in a day, thinking I can handle it, when my body and mind is not strong enough to handle it yet.

Awesome conversations that I have with my mentor, Elango Thiyagu (www.elangothiyagu.com)

Of all these, I went into a battlefield that I was unfamiliar with wounded. Wounded meaning, my six sense - thinking ability, was not strong to make proper decisions, be firm, to respond, use SIEP, and mainly to keep my other 5 senses in control. 

It was a different experience for me as previously, I did not take my thinking ability that seriously. Until I find myself hard to think and saw myself losing control to my other senses and some of my subconscious tricks. 

So, appreciate and sharpen your six sense - thinking ability. Because you have no idea what an amazing tool you have inside you.

Attention is Hazardous

Sometimes... attention can be a very dangerous thing. Oh wait! It's not sometimes, but all the time.

The need for attention just makes you crave for more and more attention without getting you to think if that attention is something necessary for you or not.

You see, the senses likes attention. It can be a concern or friendly type of attention but it can also be a sexual type of attention. And attention distracts you from your goals and leads you into a downwards cycle which is negative growth. Because attention gets you to be PEIS.

P - Physical senses looks at someone giving you the attention.

E - Feel important and you create an illusion of happiness.

I - You start believing that you should get more attention so that you can be happy.

S - You believe you are faithed to meet these people.

But here's a question. What happens if these attention is pulled away from you? What would you do?

For most people, they would crave for more. You may not even realize it but you would start gravitating to those who can give you more attention. Even if that person may distract you from your goals, that wouldn't matter to you because at that point of time, your senses would say, just do anything you can to keep that attention coming to you. Even if it means, losing yourself along the way.

Like a lot of us like having casual texts with the opposite gender though it has nothing related to our goal. Some stranger or a friend asking something as lame as "Have you eaten?", has got nothing to do with your goals.

Unless it is someone who's helping you with your growth, asking if you have eaten maybe because you were not very well for the past few days.

But other than that, that kind of random chats is what distracts you from your goals by heightening the attention seeking quality in you. This kind of conversations in turn would end up sooo long that you would feel like you know this person for ages. But let me tell you this, that belief is plain bullshit because as long as you want attention, you and that person can mask yourselves however you want so that you can continuously get more attention.

How do I know this? I've done this, of course!

But here's the thing, if I don't correct this kinda thoughts, I would end up getting the wrong kind of attention that interferes with my goals.

So, why wait till I get into trouble?

I'd rather switch to SIEP and get my senses under my control. I'm not there yet and that's why starting early is a better option.

Intimacy in Relationship

So I was thinking how intimacy and being truthful helps tremendously in a relationship.

Well, it definitely helps a lot but what does it mean by being truthful intimately in a relationship?

I'm a Gen-Y and being in this category, we are pretty well-known in changing partners quite often. I'm not saying I do that but that's majority of us, depending on the programming. But I came to understand the reason why we do this. It's because we are designed to experience things including relationships. And that's why we keep moving on from one relationship to the other, wanting to explore the true relationship that can lead to our growth.

But most of us get tied up in relationships we are not favorable with because of commitments. That's where the problem lies. Because when you stop looking for someone that can help you grow and vice versa, you lose a lot in life.

For most people, a relationship exist because the senses sees a cute guy or a hot women, the emotions goes like, 'OMG, I'm falling in love!', the intellect analyzes all the positive traits that person has and exaggerates those traits and finally the spirit goes, 'He's the One'.

So, how should a relationship be? What's it like to be in a relationship?

If you say fights, not really. Drama, nope. 

But more to conversations, I would say. But truthful conversation. Even about your most intimate things.

I talk about a lot of things with my partner. About our daily happenings to even our most intimate thoughts. Things we dislike, things we like while at the same time discovering new things about each other.

I've learned that if something bothers a person, we should express and rectify it before it grows into something nasty. And that's what we do. Even if we can't meet each other, there's always WhatsApp that comes to our rescue. We express it, do SIEP multiple times until we have cleared that issue out of our mind. 

We update each other on our progress when moving towards our goals. This in return, generates ideas for projects we work on.

So... you might be thinking. Where is the physical part? Well, physical relationship is nice. But there's way more better things than that.

Like hugging each other, having late night conversations, whispering sweet things in each other's ears and not forgetting, lots and lots of laughter's!

Sometimes, the simplest things that the other person does can bring a smile to me.

But not if you are constantly focusing on finding fault with the other person.

This is just my sharing on how SIEP relationship can be an awesome relationship!

Spirit - You feel a connection and you are curios to know a person better

Intellect - Have conversations (proper conversation about anything and everything) for 3 to 6 months continuously

Emotions - After having proper conversations for more than 6 months, then you can decide whether you would want to be emotionally involved with that person or not. Sometimes, you might just want to remain friends without taking it to the next stage. 

Physical - Please get a medical check-up, people! You wouldn't wanna risk your health or affect your partner with any health complications like STDs or etc. Be concern about each other's health conditions before pursuing further into the relationship.

* A relationship is meant for your growth. Who you choose to be by your side, determines your growth in discovering yourself.